I haven't seen or talked to her in 8 months. I have been dating this new girl, and it's been going pretty good. Then BAM, I change lanes and see her on the highway. Everything stopped, she didn't see me, but I was a dear in headlights.
The thing is, I can't stop thinking about her. There was never closure, she just brushed me off like we had nothing and never really talked again. I keep thinking about how much I loved her. We were absolutely nuts for each other. I'm in my late 20's, and it's not like I'm in high school. I loved this girl, and she crushed my world.
I don't want to mess up my new relationship, and I'm positive my ex could care less if she ever would see me again. She did txt me a couple times when drunk, but still she's over me. I guess I'm not with her.
What should I do? I want to pursue my relationship I'm in, but in the back of my mind I know she'll never make me feel the way my ex did.
Ha, why is it I want, what I can't have so bad?Been doing good, then saw my ex, now I'm confused?
I understand what youre going through, I went out with my ex for 3 years and she broke up with me a while back but to this day i know she was the only one i really ever loved and i gave her everything. I now have a new girlfriend but its hard because like you i know this girl wont treat me the same and do the same things as my ex and sometimes when im hanging out with my gf i think abt my ex and it really bugs me because i know my ex is over me and wouldnt want to be with me but i would give everything to be with her..
';I want, what I can't have so bad?'; A very true statement and life is really unfair.
I hope you get through this and you get what you want or at least get some closure. Good luck in your new relationship!Been doing good, then saw my ex, now I'm confused?
A drunk mans words are a sober mans thoughts... clearly she must still have closure issues as well. you need to have a talk with her and tell her how u feel and how u felt. that way you will at least get closure, and whats the worst that can happen? she already broke up with you.
My mommy tole me girls were made of sugar and spice,
My Daddy tole me, son-dont let the same dog bite you twice.
If it happens again like it did next time, somebodys' gonna have to walk the line
you havent completely moved on. it will take some time, but just keep telling yourself that she was wrong for you, regardless of how you feel about her, you two were not meant to be
DUDE just get over her there is nothing you can do its over and its done with....let the pass be the pass dont mess up this relationship because of your dumb*** x
Mmm, I understand what you're going through. I had something similar happen to me. It was nearly 2 years before I got closure with the person...This is a really difficult situation, and the way it finally got solved for me was because I met ';The One.'; If the person you're with now doesn't make you feel like your ex, then maybe you need to consider that she is not the one for you (I know you probably don't want to hear that...)
You could try talking with your ex and see if you can get closure somehow, but it could leave you even more deeply hurt.
One day, though, you'll either realize the girl you're with now is the one you want and you will forget about your ex, or you will find someone new that makes you forget your ex.
Best of luck to you!
Wow you are in a jam. But everyone always wants what they can't have. I have been in this situation before, I was with someone I was completely nuts over, and they were nuts for me too. We dated for a while, then I got dumped... hard.
I didn't see them for months after and I got in a new relationship. I saw my ex once and started to get those same feelings as you. But when I started talking to him again, he had changed, A LOT. He wasn't the person I had fallen for anymore, he was a douche.
So it sounds like you have the same situation, if you are sure she was in love with you and now she seems like she could care less, she has changed for sure and if you start talking to her again you will see it and you will realize she is not the girl for you anymore.
I say stay with your new found relationship and stay away from your ex because that will just risk losing your new girlfriend.
How can you still be in love with someone who could care less about you anymore? Someone who could throw you away that easily? That is what I realized after talking to my ex.
How do you know your new girlfriend won't make you as happy? You haven't been with her long enough to know, there is always opportunities.
So just pick yourself up and forget about your ex, she will always be your first love but she will always be in your past too. Your new girlfriend is your future, focus on her. =)
just think about all the bad things she's done to you man... i know it's tough because i went through the same thing. think about it... she texted you when she was drunk, that doesnt really mean anything. you have this new girl right in front of you, dont take her for granted because if you do and you lose her you'll be asking another question on here about how to get her back. you're in your late 20's... that's still young dont worry man you still have a while.
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Whoo! Finally, an honest guy who doesn't just use Yahoo Answers as a way to get ways to get a girl to like him! :-D Okay.... look, you sound like an incredible guy, so you should call/text her! Tell her you going bowling/to the beach etc., and your other guy-friend dropped out. This doesn't have to be a date, but does she want to come just to hang out? As friends? If she does this, make this a common habit.... maybe over time she'll realize what she saw in you... And if not, atleast you'll have another great friend! But then, if it doesn't go well - think about how she has hurt you - texting you drunk, that's playing with you! And then pushing you away! ... Well, Good luck!!!
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Tell me about it. I've been there, done that and bought the T-shirt. I was with a guy on and off for seven years. We had great sex too, etc and so on. Well, then he decided that he ';didn't have time to date';, and a bunch of other excuses. It took three years for me to get over that S.O.B., but he's always at the back of my mind. I've never been able to forget him, no matter what I've done. But I know that I could never trust him again, because he screwed around on me at least twice that I knew of, possibly more. I don't know the reason why your ex-girlfriend broke up with you, but from what you say, she seems pretty insensitive. She gets back from a trip and then dumps you??? A couple of possible red flags went off at that one. And here's the deal. If the one you are with now is a very good person, treats you right, and things are going good, then by all means pursue the relationship. I know I won't find another guy who made me feel like my ex either, but then I don't want another cheater. And if she texts you while drunk, that should tell you alot right there, and nothing good. Tell her to stop texting you so you can move on with your life, and suggest to her that she get a life and grow up while she's at it. She breaks up with you and then teases you with text messages??? Come on!! I would keep up with your relationship for now. If it doesn't work out, then being by yourself for a while will give you a chance to get together with friends, volunteer somewhere where you can meet other people. If this relationship you are in doesn't work for you, you will eventually find the right one. Good luck.
i know how you feel.. like no matter what ur ex had that one special thing that kept u going that you cant seem to find in anyone else?
i think you need to talk to your ex though. if you dont find closure evertime ur in a situation like this, your always gunna wonder how she feels and if things had been diff. what woulda happened. You other have to get her back or find closure.. Yeah closures gunna hurt like h*ll but thats just life... and your always gunna have rationalization as your defense mechanism if you dont settle things with her. (settling for someone else because ou cant have her anyway) its not being true to yourself hun.
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