Is it just me, or is my mom difficult, or even CRAZY!? (Driving)?

Ok, I’m 17 going on 18 and have had my license for about a year and ?. On top of that I had a learner’s permit for a whole year before getting my license and have been driving with my mom since then. I know that I’m not middle aged like her and neither do I claim to have years upon years of driving experience. However, whenever I drive with my mom in the car I have to deal with her constantly telling me to do things that I already know to do(“make sure you look backwards in reverse; watch that lady; there’s a stop sign, stop; make sure you look b4 changing lanes”) and it’s SIMPLE things that I am already going to do anyways w/o her even telling me which makes it all the more annoying.



Another thing she does is, I’ll be driving and she wants me to go to a certain place that I don’t know how to get to so she’s giving the directions. She knows what lane I should be in and whether to keep straight, turn left or right, but she waits until the very last minute to tell me which means I have to hit the brakes, and prepare to turn or change lanes (usually right at the intersection which is dangerous). Then she wants to get mad at me if I have to keep going, make a u-turn and come back to the missed turn (which is often safer in my eyes) like its my fault it happened.



And when I say NEVER, I mean I can NEVER get her to use the words “left” and “right” with me in traffic. She’ll say: go/turn here, there, this way, that way, over there, over here…etc. but never clear words so I kno WHERE! And sometimes she’ll hold out her had but I can’t see what direction its pointing to so I have to take my eyes off the road to look at her hand because she wont say left or right. When I ask her to use these words she gets mad and it always ends in an argument with her saying stuff like “oh, you can’t handle it all that? Well you must don’t need to be driving then” and “I got more experience than you okay? You need to listen to what I’m saying you’re being disrespectful I’m older than you shut up”(she literally put her hand over my mouth today while I was driving while I was trying to tell her how I feel w/o disrespecting her)



Consistency is also what she has lacked from day 1, because I could be doing the speed limit and I’m going too slow for her or I could be over the speed limit and im going too fast for her! Sometimes I get yelled at for being courteous and letting someone out and other times when I choose to keep going because I have the right of way its “you could have waited for them and been courteous!” So it’s like a no win situation with her and I have had to drive to please her for a LONG time but now I realize that I have my license and so I try to follow the law and not what will please her. And this still leads to conflicts! lol



My point is, I can never talk to her about these things because she feels like she is never in the wrong and/or she’ll never admit it and will take it out on me like im always wrong. Also, I would just like for her to realize that I have my license and don’t need for her to say simple common sense things like she’s teaching me how to drive all over again. I would just like to know how to talk to her and finally get her to listen and understand things.Is it just me, or is my mom difficult, or even CRAZY!? (Driving)?
I told my girlfriend to give me the next turn as soon as I have made a turn or I am just going to go straight. We took some very long detours before she learned. She also learned to say yes and no to questions to avoid the ';do I turn left here... right.';



You may never get her to change. Just find out where you are going before you start , so you can ignore her directions.Is it just me, or is my mom difficult, or even CRAZY!? (Driving)?
you always have to be driving with your mother?

she can take herself places she wants to go

do you have to take her places you want to go or is there some restriction on the use of the car?

I would avoid driving with her every chance you get, avoid these situations you aren't going to change her